Supporting Kids’ Mental Health: Answers to Parents’ Most Pressing Questions

May is Mental Health Awareness Month, and while conversations around emotional well-being are becoming more common, many parents still find themselves wondering:What does mental health look like for young children? What signs should I look out for? And how can I help my child feel more confident, connected, and calm—especially during tough moments?

At Happypillar, we know that parenting comes with questions—lots of them. And when it comes to your child’s emotional development, the stakes can feel especially high. That’s why, this month, we’re spotlighting expert insights from our Clinical Advisory Board to answer the questions we hear most from parents like you.

Below, you’ll find thoughtful, practical responses that you can start using today—at home, at school, and everywhere in between.

How can parents encourage empathy and problem-solving in children who have difficulty cooperating with others?

Answer: Invite your child into a “feelings detective” game and when you notice a friend or sibling looking upset or frustrated, gently kneel down and ask, “What clue tells you how they’re feeling right now?” Celebrate every observation (“Yes, those tears mean she’s sad, great catch!”) to show you value their insights.

You can also turn everyday challenges—like deciding what to play after school or sharing a beloved toy—into mini “solution quests.” You might say, “Our mission today is to make playtime super fun for everyone. What ideas do you have?” Encourage them to think of two or three options, even silly ones, then guide them gently toward picking one to try.

When they spot kind moments (“You saw he felt left out when you built the blocks without him, brilliant!”) or offer creative fixes (“Taking turns with the truck so both of you get to race, love that!”), shower them with specific praise and a high five or sticker to reinforce that empathy and teamwork are important.

By keeping the tone light, using simple props like a detective notebook or stickers, and cheering on each thoughtful step—no matter how small—you can help your child build up their confidence in reading others’ feelings and encourage their ability to come up with thoughtful solutions.

What are the best ways to communicate with teachers or caregivers about a child's behavior challenges to ensure consistency and support across settings?

Answer: The key to talking with teachers or caregivers about your child’s behavior challenges is open, non-defensive communication grounded in partnership. Your child’s teachers want the best for them, just like you do.

Start by sharing what’s working at home—specific strategies or routines that help your child thrive—and ask what’s working (or not) in their setting. Then share your ideas based on what’s working (or not working) at home. Frame it as a team effort:“How can we support each other to help my child feel safe and successful?”

Be honest about any diagnoses or patterns, but also lead with your child’s strengths. Regular check-ins, not just during moments of crisis, go a long way in creating consistency and mutual support.

How can parents support a child who struggles with transitions or changes in routine both at home and in preschool?

Answer:Kids often struggle with transitions like from home to school or between activities. Here are a few ways to help your child transition smoothly between activities and contexts.

• Keep things predictable. Kids thrive on routine. You can support this by giving advance notice:“After this Bluey episode, it’s time to put on shoes for school!” Once the routine is familiar, involve them:“What do we do next to get ready?”

• Use transition cues. Songs, rhymes, or visual charts work well. Kids often recognize these from daycare or preschool routines—using them at home can help create familiarity.

• Match your language to their development. Young kids often focus on the first part of a sentence. Instead of saying “We’ll go to the park after the post office,” say:“First we’ll go to the post office, then the park.”

• Give yourself extra time. Transitions go more smoothly when neither of you is rushed.

  
  

Managing routine changes:

• Keep as much consistency as possible. If your child is starting a new school, keep the morning routine and drop-off rituals the same.

• Communicate changes and offer reassurance. Kids want to know they’re safe and supported. Talk about the change in simple terms and validate their feelings:“What are you excited or worried about?”

• Involve them. Let them choose their outfit, pack their bag, or set up a new space. Giving small choices fosters a sense of control.

What strategies are most effective for helping young children learn to share and manage conflicts with peers?

Answer: Helping young children learn to share and manage peer conflicts is a process that takes time, patience, and lots of practice.

Start by modeling calm communication and empathy. Use simple language like,“I see you both want the same toy. Let’s find a solution together.”Narrate what you observe:“It’s okay to feel frustrated when you’re waiting your turn.”

Create frequent opportunities for children to practice sharing and problem-solving in low-stakes settings, like during play at home. Coach them with phrases like:“Can I have a turn when you’re done?” or “Let’s take turns.”

Reinforce positive behavior with specific praise:“I noticed you waited so patiently—thank you for being respectful.”

Books and role-playing are powerful tools to build social-emotional skills. If conflict escalates, stay calm and set a clear boundary:“I won’t let you hurt each other. Let’s pause and take a breath.”

Remember, kids aren’t born knowing how to cooperate—they learn it from us. With consistency and warmth, you’re helping them develop lifelong relationship skills.

Final Thoughts

This Mental Health Awareness Month, we hope these expert-backed answers help you feel a little more equipped—and a lot more reassured—as you support your child’s emotional well-being. Whether you’re navigating transitions, encouraging empathy, or teaming up with teachers, remember: growth takes time. And you're not alone.

Looking for more tools to support your child’s mental health?Try Happypillar—our evidence-based app designed to build emotional resilience, confidence, and connection through play.

You’re doing important, heart-full work. We’re here with you, every step of the way.